Danger is Real. Fear Isn’t

Posted: October 13, 2013 in McTrip posts
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Some of you, or perhaps only one of you (God, please let there be at least one of you), may be wondering the answer to last week’s post. If that’s you, the answer is: I signed the lease. I’m staying in L.A. Now on to less important things…

Gun1Of all of the soul searching and life coaching I’ve been through in Mid-Life Reconstruction, maybe the biggest breakthrough came in the form of a bumper sticker: Danger is real. Fear isn’t.

Since 2008 I’ve been bombarded with fear. It’s been like a venereal disease that won’t go away. With the advantage of hindsight I see I was never in any danger. I never, ever, came close to dying. Or even living on the streets. (And living on the streets wouldn’t be dangerous in the right neighborhood!)

In sum, I feared losing the way of life I knew and the comforts I’d come to expect. No danger there.

When I understood that, and surrendered to it, my entire approach to my past and my future changed. I believe, as of today, that I’ve survived the worst of the Great Recession. I took a hit to the jaw and I’m still standing. I’ve lost plenty but learned 10 times more than I lost. And if this is as good as it gets, I’ll be happy. And there’s nothing more to fear.

That was Breakthrough #1 in the Year of the Middle-Age Reconstruction. I‘ve referenced several other breakthroughs in previous posts, constantly asking readers to “stay tuned.” Well, as Dawn4Dinasaurs moves into reconstruction of its own, I want to offer to you “The Plan”– the roadmap for my near future. It’s a vision constructed in collaboration with Life Coach Laura, as well as with other trusted friends and family. I offer it to you in hopes it will:

1) Make you laugh
2) Make you cry
3) Not make you look for the “unsubscribe” key, and
4) Make you think about your own life in ways maybe you haven’t before.

The next four posts will address these breakthroughs. AND THEN WE ARE MOVING ON!! That’s right, we need to get beyond the gory details of the past and all this titillating self-analysis of the present. It’s time to move into the stage called: “OK, now go out there and do it.”

I’ve been calling my current state “Midlife Reconstruction.” Well I’d like to announce that construction is complete and I’m ready for the test market. I’m not wedded to The Plan, although it seems pretty feasible and logical. I won’t be quick to abandon it, but I will allow myself to tweak it or even completely overhaul it, if necessary. The only thing that is non-negotiable is that fear will play no part in it.

(To be continued…)
JMcT

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